19 CHILDREN, 2 ADULTS KILLED IN TEXAS SCHOOL RAMPAGE

School shooting…another school shooting. Young children and teachers killed…again. A fourth-grade classroom at Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas; where an 18-year-old lunatic gunman locked himself in and proceeded to kill 2 teachers and their innocent children.

As a parent, you hear this and your heart drops. Your eyes fill with tears. Your heart is filled with shock, anger, and disgust. You ask yourself, why does this happen? When will this end? When will the world change? When will God step in? When will the government officials stop pointing fingers at each other and work together and come up with a better system?

As you see the news, you saw the parent of the students of Robb Elementary, desperately awaiting news on their children while they are on lockdown. Uvalde is about 75 miles (120 kilometers) from the Mexican border. Robb Elementary, which has nearly 600 students in second, third and fourth grades, is a single-story brick structure in a mostly residential neighborhood of modest homes.

You hear the death toll rising. Parents are crying while being interviewed or some can’t speak at all, so they have a family member speak for them because they are overcome with grief. Vigils are being held.

Then, you hear about the shooter and how he sent messages on Facebook of his plan minutes before he executed it. He shot his grandmother in the face before he arrived at the school. However, I get annoyed, and I understand the media is doing their job, but they focus so much on who the shooter was, how they got the gun, basically describing the entire plan, etc.; to the point where they become infamous and then you see copycats pop up. You wish they wouldn’t focus so much on that.

Yes, I am well aware the shooter was being bullied, but he shot innocent victims. There was no resolution to his problem but murderous cowardness.

Sadly, as you read or hear more stories, you hear of the heroic efforts of Eva Mireles, the fourth-grade teacher who died heroically shielding her fourth-grade students from a barrage of bullets. Mireles’ co-teacher, 46-year-old mom of four Irma Garcia, was also killed. According to witness accounts, she too died protecting her students from the shooter.

You see and hear the families mourning the loss of their beautiful babies. How will they go on? These angels who did not deserve to die this way.

Uziyah Garcia, 8 – known as a sweet boy and an adept football player

Xavier Lopez, 10 – enjoyed life and loved to dance

Amerie Jo Garza, 10 – Just received her honor roll certificate hours before she was killed. She attempted to call 911 to save her classmates.

Jose Flores Jr., 10 – killed hours after receiving his honor roll certificate.

Alithia Ramirez, 10 – just turned ten days before. Her family still had balloons decorating their home from her party.

Annabell Rodriguez, 10, and Jacklyn Jaylen Cazares, 10 – two cousins in the same class. Their aunt had to identify them.

Jailah Nicole Silguero, 11 and Jayce Carmelo Silguero, 11 – Veronica Luevanos, whose 10-year-old daughter, Jaliah Nicole Silguero, was among the victims, told Univision in a tearful interview that her daughter did not want to go to school Tuesday and that the girl seemed to sense something was going to happen. They were both described as beautiful baby angels by their family.

Eliahana Cruz Thomas, 10 – Adolfo Cruz spent more than 10 hours standing outside of Robb Elementary to find answers about his granddaughter, Eliahana Cruz Torres.

Eliahna “Ellie” Garcia, 10 – loved to dance, play sports and loved her family

Rojelio Torres, 10 – described as very smart and loving.

Jacklyn Cazares, 10 – described by her family as full of life and love.

Navaeah Bravo, 10 – loving child.

Tess Mata, 10 – had a jar full of cash she was saving to go to Disney World. Described as a joy to be around.

Alexandria “Lexi” Rubio, 10 – Athletic girl who played basketball and softball. Just made the honor roll. Described as a loving and sweet girl

It is like watching Sandy Hook and Parkland happen all over again. You pray for the victims and their families. You pray for God to give them the strength to go on. You hold your little ones a little tighter than usual. You cry and worry when you drop your child off at school.

Now our children have to practice drills with their teacher with the understanding this is an actual real situation which could possibly happen in their school. You hear words like lockdown and the color codes and what they mean. Code Red: lockdown. Only police may move about the campus. Code Black: Bomb Threat. Code Yellow: Lockdown. Only the school’s safe team may move about campus.

I remember when I was these children’s age, the scariest moments in school were when the fire drill went off because of a prank, but we never thought it was a real fire. It also reminds me of when during the early 1950s, schools across the United States were training students to dive under their desks and cover their heads. The now-infamous duck-and-cover drills simulated what should be done in case of an atomic attack —and channeled a growing panic over an escalating arms race. My mother and father repeatedly had to do this when they were in school.

It is absolutely terrifying. Our children are going to school and there is a possibility of never coming home. As parents, our hearts break for these families. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

Where do we go from here? I don’t know. Usually, I try to end my blogs with encouragement, but today I can’t. I am just sad. And I will continue to pray

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Who could do this?? Why would they steal from the weak?!

So, I don’t advertise this information, but I am 48 years old. The age part doesn’t bother me. I am married and have two beautiful children. I love my parents and siblings very much.

But what does bother me is watching my parents get older. Watching them struggle. Watching them decline. No matter what belief system you have or hope for the future, anyone who has to witness their parents get older and struggle or deal with issues they handled before but not find hard breaks your heart.

It all came to a head the other day when my sweet father was on the computer, and he gets a message sent him saying he needed to call the bank as someone has hacked into his account. He decides to call the number and the thief (I could use many other choice words, but my blogs are supposed to be rated G) pretended to be the bank and proceeded to defraud my father and mother of $1800.

What makes matters worse is when I was calling my parents to check on them, and they would not pick up. Finally, when I get my mother on the phone, she tells me what is happening, but it didn’t make sense. She felt this was a con, but my father wanted to handle it. It comes to a point to where you ask yourself, how much control or power do you weld over your parents? Do you scold them like a child? No, you can’t. All you do is support, counsel and help them. I didn’t need to yell or show my anger or frustration. What was I going to accomplish with that?

Well, the damage was done. My father was swindled into purchasing $1800 worth of gift cards from Walgreens. The thieves knew they couldn’t be traced once that was done and on top of that, my father bought them. According to the police, he voluntarily bought the gift cards even though coercion was used.

My father felt terrible when he realized what happened and what he had done. I have never believed in kicking someone when they are down. I can’t say I have always acted that way and have blown my top, but this time I didn’t. I couldn’t. He was hurting so much, and my mother was frustrated.

So why am I telling you this? Because I want to do all I can to protect other elderly parents against these degenerates. Below is an article you can read in your spare time, but I am going to list the ways the elderly is being targeted.

Elder Abuse: Financial Scams Against Seniors Elder Abuse: Financial Scams Against Seniors | Nolo

Catfishing scam. Catfishing is when someone steals from a person that they’ve ‘met’ online. Today, many seniors turn to online services and social media to make romantic or friendly connections. These scammers may endear themselves to the elderly person — and then ask them for money to help with an emergency like to bail them out of jail or make a flight back to the United States. Most often, scammers will never meet the elderly person and are actually located someplace other than where they claimed to be.

Telemarketing or mail fraud. The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that dishonest telemarketers take in an estimated $40 billion each year, bilking one in six American consumers — and the AARP claims that about 80% of them are 50 or older. Scammers use the phone to conduct investment and credit card fraud, lottery scams, and identity theft.

Phishing scam. Phishing is when a criminal uses fake emails, calls, or texts to steal a victim’s personal information. In one common phishing scam, an elderly person will receive an email that says it is from the person’s bank or investment account and that the elder needs to update their information. This is really just a ploy to get the elder’s information and steal their identity.

Social Security spoofing scam. Scammers contact elderly people by phone and claim that the victim’s Social Security number has been suspended due to suspicious activity and asks the victim to confirm their number or risk the possibility that the number will be seized. REMEMBER, SOCIAL SECURITY DOES NOT CALL YOU!

Internet fraud. Some older people are slow to embrace new technology, which is why they are sometimes targeted in internet scams. Seniors may download a fake anti-virus program or viruses by clicking on pop-up windows. This action allows scammers to extract personal information about the senior.

Fraudulent legal documents. Many scammers cloak their actions in legal authority, procuring a power of attorney or will or other legal document giving them access to a senior’s property. They get seniors to sign these documents by lying to, intimidating, or threatening the seniors.

Texting scam. A scammer texts the victim deceptive messages to try to get the elder person to provide their personal or financial information. For example, the scammer might promise a prize to the first 100 people who respond to the message. The scammer then uses the information to steal the elder’s identity or to commit fraud.

Grandparent scam. In this situation, a scammer calls the elderly person and pretends to be their grandchild. The grandchild will then ask for money for an unexpected financial problem like not having money for rent, medical bills, or car repairs. The scammer will plead with the grandparent not to tell their parent.

Undue influence or fraud. Many seniors have been duped into parting with their homes or other property because a scammer convinces them it is for their own good. In one infamous case, three officials from the Detroit-based Guardian Inc. were found guilty of embezzlement and fraud after selling a client’s house for $500 — to the mother of a company officer. The company also collected excessive fees from its wards, sometimes as high as 70 percent of their Social Security checks.

Lottery scam. Scammers inform elderly victims that they have won the lottery or sweepstakes — but they just need to pay for taxes or other fees before the rest of the money will be released. They might even send a check to the victim to make it seem more real, but the check will just bounce.

In one of these scams in Canada, the U.S. Attorney General and the Solicitor General of Canada estimated that scammers were able to steal about $1 billion a year from its citizens.

Home repair scam. Typically working in teams of two or more, scammers scour neighborhoods with a high concentration of older residents, or even track recent widows and widowers through obituaries and death notices, then appear on their doorsteps claiming to spot something in need of fixing — a hole in the roof or clogged drainpipe, for example.

The scammers demand payment upfront, and then often claim that their initial investigation reveals a more serious problem, with a more expensive solution. The “work” they do is unlicensed and often shoddy, such as applying paint to a roof to make it appear as if it has been tangibly fixed.

In a twist on this scam, one alleged worker might distract the elder while another enters the house to steal money and other valuables.

Okay so now that we know some of the scams out there. Here are some signs you can look for to make sure your loved ones are not in the process of being victimized:

Telltale Signs a Loved One is Being the Victim of Elder Abuse.

  • Unusual or large withdrawals or transfers from bank accounts, or large credit card charges that the older person can’t explain.
  • Checks that are missing or include suspicious signatures.
  • An individual who suddenly forms a close relationship with the older person, getting easy access to his or her home, money, and other property.
  • Newly executed documents, such as a will or power of attorney, that the older person doesn’t seem to understand.
  • Changes in account beneficiaries or authorized signers.
  • A large number of unpaid bills.
  • Missing property.
  • Entry forms and prizes from contests, and payments made for “free” vacations or other merchandise.
  • Untreated physical or mental problems, including a dramatic change in mood or disposition, or other evidence of substandard care.
  • Sudden social isolation.

Where to Report Suspected Financial Abuse

There are now a number of individuals and groups dedicated to investigating suspected financial abuse and finding and stopping perpetrators. Here are some options for taking action.

Notify bank personnel. Depending on the type and extent of financial abuse involved, giving a heads up to the bank tellers and officers who commonly handle the elder’s accounts may be enough to stop the wrongdoing. Bank employees are often in a good position to note suspicious activity, such as a sudden withdrawal of large sums of money or use of an ATM card by an elder who is housebound.

The laws in most states encourage or require bank officials to report suspected elder financial abuse. And a federal law requires financial institutions to file a Suspicious Activity Report with the federal government when they suspect elder financial abuse.

Get help from a senior services group. While the services offered — from counseling to legal assistance — vary widely depending on the locale, the Eldercare Locator, at 800-677-1116 directs callers to local programs and services that help prevent financial elder abuse. And VictimConnect Resource Center (victimconnect.org) at 855-484-2846 helps arrange and coordinate assistance with crimes.

Contact Adult Protective Services. Adult Protective Services (APS) is the government-affiliated agency charged with investigating reports of elder financial abuse and offering assistance to victims. To find your state APS office, visit the National Center on Elder Abuse’s website at ncea.acl.gov/Resources/State.aspx.

Alert law enforcement. The police or local prosecutor’s office will often intervene when there is good evidence that a crime is being committed.

Please take the time to review this information especially if you have elderly or older parents and you have had to take a more active role in their lives and decision making.

And to the thieves who stole my parents’ money, I am going to take a story from the Bible, in the book of Jude 9 where it states, “But when Michael the archangel had a difference with the Devil and was disputing about Moses’ body, he did not dare to bring judgement against him in abusive terms, but said, “May Jehovah rebuke you.”

So as much as my heart hurts and my parents are healing from this mishap, I will leave this in God’s hands and continue to pray for guidance, hope, help and the strength to continue to help my parents.

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How Do You React When Your Child Is Getting Teased or Worse Bullied?

How do you feel when your child is getting teased? How do you feel when your child is getting bullied? Well before you answer, let me give you, my answers. Bothered when the teasing is unnecessarily harsh especially from family members. And I feel an extreme anger when my child is being bullied. I am sure most parents share the same sentiment.

Now obviously we need to break down the difference. A bully is defined as a blustering, mean, or predatory person who, from a perceived position of relative power, intimidates, abuses, harasses, or coerces people, especially those considered unlikely to defend themselves. Teasing is defined as to irritate or provoke with persistent petty distractions, trifling jests, or other annoyances, to bully, harass, or torment.

Now obviously by definition, a bully is more serious and can have disastrous consequences for the victim as we have seen in the rise in suicides of children and teens. Even adults have been driven to a point of no return when it comes to bullying and ridicule. However, teasing though not as serious an offense can be quite upsetting and unsettling for a child.

We are always told to rise above. Don’t let the said bully get the better of you. Don’t let someone’s sense of humor or teasing cause you to lose your temper. You are supposed to take the high road. But it tends to be a different response when it is our child that is on the receiving end of the bullying or teasing.

When our child comes to us with problems with a bully, we speak and counsel our child. We go to the teachers and/or principal asking for help on the matter. We try to rehearse ways they can defuse the situation on their own. You want to jump in and handle it all for them. You want to save them from the pain and humiliation, but you also want them to learn how to stand up for themselves.

However, when you have a child who has special needs or limitations, it becomes even more frustrating, infuriating, painful and you find yourself using a lot of choice words when referring to the bully/teaser. Why would someone’s child feel the need to bother, mentally torture, become physical or bully another child just because they feel they can?? Especially when they can clearly see there is a limitation in the child.

To me, one of the most stressful and painful moments of my life has been when I have had to deal with a bully bothering my daughter or son. Getting them dressed for school in the morning as they fought me and cried or dropping my child off at school with tears in their eyes because they had to face that bully in their class. Then I would cry while driving off to work, worried about how their day would be like. I would call the school to check in on my child. I would send emails to their teacher and copy their principal if I felt I needed to in order to get the situation resolved.

You feel a desperation and you kick yourself because you worry you are pushing those vibes to your kids. You just want it over. You just want that child to leave your child alone. You dream about your child becoming like the character Ralphie from the movie ‘A Christmas Story’ where he finally gives Spud Farkus (the school bully) a taste of his own medicine.

But when you finally have a resolution to the problem of the bully, you find yourself breathing a sigh of relief. It’s over. And if you never had to deal with this situation with your child and you don’t know what the hell I am talking about then I am very happy for you.

As we all say being a mother has its ups and downs. Being the mother of a child with developmental delays and limitations can have some more intense ups and downs.

And if you are currently going through a situation like this then know you are not alone. Give your child some extra hugs and kisses. Make sure they know you are there to help and be a source of comfort. And most important, let them know you will always be there to for them and fight for them. Having your child know they can come to you with any issue that is troubling them is so important. It keeps the lines of communication open.

Well, that’s all for now. Stay safe and make good decisions. Remember, those rides to school can be one of the most informative.

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Are You Suggesting My Son Has Autism?

My son. My funny, sweet, loving, hyperactive son was having a hard time in Pre-K 4. He was 4 years old and struggling. He had delayed speech. He couldn’t focus nor sit still. I had spoken with his principal and teachers before he started Pre-k 3 to discuss his issues we saw. I also had a conversation at the beginning of the school year for Pre-K 4 telling his new teacher all the issues we saw BUT I made it a point to tell her anything she noticed with him to please communicate with me (Remember that part later in the story). Every week I would ask on how he was doing and was told everything was going well. We were using my daughter as a form of reference since she was diagnosed with ADHD.

Watching him as he was hitting certain milestones and missing others, my mind began to race about what this all could mean. So, we decided, my husband and I, we would be more proactive and not miss the opportunity to help him. The guilt still bothers me because I didn’t act fast enough for our daughter. So, for my son, I was not going to make the same mistake.

As I said before, we met with his principal and teachers before he started pre-k 3. We then got him into speech therapy and then occupational therapy. He started making improvements or so we thought and then fast forward to Pre-K 4 we were given the news he was not adjusting nor acclimating well to the class.

Ok I know. He is only 4 years old. It is Pre-K. It is not like he is preparing for Harvard. And let’s talk truth here. When we were in school, Kindergarten was coloring, learning their letters, learning how to count and writing. Now I come to find when my children started school, the curriculum changed. Pre-Kindergarten is where those specific things are taught. By Kindergarten, your child whether in private, public, charter or home school needs to be able to write sentences, know the alphabet, count to 100, spell and recognize sight words, etc.

This was supposed to be a meeting with parents to discuss their child’s report card. However, my husband and I were expecting to meet with just his teacher, but the principal decided to join us. You know that feeling you get when you know the meeting between parent and teacher is about to take a rough turn.

I hear things mentioned of my son running around the classroom, crying, not finishing his work, not at the level of reading, writing, or math as where children need to be at his age. I. was. shocked. Why didn’t anyone say anything? Why didn’t the teacher tell me all the times I asked how he was doing?

Then the conversation turns to moving him to their other school for children with learning disabilities or differences as they call it. The same school my daughter attends. And I am just there with my mouth open and tears rolling down my face.

My husband thinks they are overreacting. I feel like there is a bit of an exaggeration, but I also know my son has his issues. I know he is not where he needs to be. I wasn’t angry at them but disappointed they had me thinking he was doing better than he was. I felt like someone pulled the rug out from underneath me.

Yes, I had alerted them to what I was seeing, but I also didn’t think it was this bad. Then the conversation takes another turn to where I’m told “you should really have him tested to see where he is on the spectrum.”

“Wait! What?” Spectrum….as in autistic? So, my mind begins to race even more, and the fear rises. Is my son autistic and I missed this too? He never missed a pediatrician appointment. I also mentioned to my doctor what I saw. How could this be? What in the world is going on with my mothering instincts? They suck…. I suck. Or so I thought.

The next day I kept him home from school and took him straight to the pediatrician. I explained everything we discussed at the school. My pediatrician says there is no way a 4-year-old would not be hyper. However, we did need to find out what was going on. So, she sends me to the University of Miami Mailmen Center. Two weeks later, we met with the pediatric specialist for Neurology. My husband and I sat for three-hours answering questions while she watched my son for that entire appointment and examined him.

She looks at my son and says, “Your son is not autistic. However, he has Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder combined type. This means his inattentive side and hyperactivity is at the same level along with developmental delays. So, it was not autism, but he had a big diagnosis in my eyes. In fact, he was worse than my daughter’s diagnosis.

He is more alert about his surroundings and pays more attention to conversations. He is much more social and fearless than my daughter. And he has an unusual gift in music. He just has more difficulties learning. So, thankfully we have him in the school that helped my daughter so much.

It will be a longer road for him academically than my daughter’s. But I have faith he will be just fine. Don’t get me wrong there are far worse things in the world. Especially now that we are all in the thick of the pandemic.

One thing I have learned in this whole process of having two children with learning differences and needs is to keep a level head. Gather your information and take some time to weight the information you are being given from your schools about your child.

This blog is not to make teachers or schools to be the enemy. Contrary it is through them I was given answers I needed to better help my children. But we have a responsibility as parents to weed out all the unnecessary opinions and go on about with facts.

If you are unsure what is happening with your child, and you see them struggling with speech, certain milestones, focus, behavior and academically. Then you can do the following things. Take your child to a pediatric neurologist. Have them make sure there is nothing clinical going on with your child. Once you have that done then take your child to a psychologist where they can give your child what is called a psychological evaluation.

This evaluation will check everything through a series of questions and exercises to see what areas your child needs help. It will not disappoint. Also make sure to check with your health insurance to see what your coverage is for therapies such as speech, occupational and behavioral.

Most of all, remember there is no shame in this. You are not alone and there are many parents dealing with this same problem. If I can help at least one parent in this journey, then I would be so happy.

Remember, trust your gut and don’t drive yourself crazy second guessing yourself.

Take care and be safe! Blog with you again soon.

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High School and the Freshman!

January 06, 2022

High School….how many of you remember your days in high school? Some say it gave them the best years of their lives. Some say it was the hardest years of their lives and then the dam broke when they hit college.

One thing I felt and noticed is, if you are a parent, that 8th grade graduation of your child brings an array of nostalgia along with “Oh God, next year high school.” Every time I would say that I felt the back of my neck get hot.

As I watched her walk down the aisle in her graduation, during covid-19, with tears in my eyes, as my nose was running from underneath my mask (due to happy tears). It came to me all the memories of her in pre-k, then elementary, moving her to a new school, getting her tested, then moving her to another school which helped her. Seeing those sweet green eyes of hers that melt your heart. I was beginning to feel the pressure of where she was going to land for high school. Would we make the right choice? Would she acclimate well?

You see if you read my blog, by now you would know my daughter has ADHD. She went to private school all her school life up until now. She was in this small population of a private school with only 5 children including her in 8th grade. During covid it was perfect. The perfect safe space but to my husband and I, we felt sooner or later our daughter would have to face the world. Meaning get her around other students of more diverse backgrounds, different characters, etc.; to help her learn how to deal with people. We felt she was in a bubble. We worried how she would cope. We wanted to make changes in where she would go to high school. Everyone else was heading to the same small private high school. But not her.

But where? I didn’t want to put her in the public school she was zoned to going. She came from a private school of only over 100 students and would head to a school of a population of over 3000+ students. I was looking for a private school, but in order to attend she had to pass the entry exam. And I wanted to avoid that…

Why you ask? Most parents tutor their children, get them ready for the high school entry exam, they pass, get accepted, and life is peaches and roses for them. But not every child tests well. My child doesn’t handle taking tests well.

Now I don’t want you to think I have a low opinion of my child, but I do know her strengths and weaknesses, right? I am her mother. Between her father and I, we should have it down to a science with her, right? As Oscar the Grouch from Sesame Street would say, “Ding Dong, you’re wrong!”

We came up with the idea. OK! Let’s put her in a Magnet School. The official definition of a magnet school is this “a public school offering special instruction and programs not available elsewhere, designed to attract a more diverse student body from throughout a school district.” Ok! great idea. I always heard great things about them. I was told it is like a private school in a public school. And the best thing she didn’t have to take an entry exam. They would review her grades and she would be chosen by lottery.

So, we filled out the application, and we chose 4 schools. Due to privacy, I am not going to name them. We really wanted the one around the corner of our house because they have a phenomenal art program. My daughter wants to be an animator. Well as saying goes, “Murphy’s Law.” Well, we’re Murphy’s cousin.

She went to the audition for the Art program. We put together her portfolio. She went for her interview. I cried in the car nervous and worried and praying she would do well. And NO I didn’t cry in front of her. Well, they didn’t choose her. We actually never heard from them again. Not because of anything she did, it was just they had only 30 openings and over 1000 student applied for that same school. YIKES!

Ok, but she did get chosen to another magnet school but this one was an incredible school but extremely advanced. They waived the fact that she didn’t take Physical Science for 8th grade. It was not mandatory. However, they ask if she took Algebra 1. I said yes. I was wrong. She had only taken Algebra. I screwed up.

Most of our friends said, “Don’t take her out of the school before she attends, she may surprise you.” But we began to panic when we saw her school schedule. She had honors classes for EVERY subject. I made a slew of phone calls. I spoke to the principal. I spoke to the counselors. They told me not to worry. they told me to put my finger over the word Honors on the schedule. They said they used the same regular books of other high schools, but they go at a much faster pace.

My head was screaming this was going to be a disaster but what if I was wrong? What if I robbed her of an opportunity and showed her, I had no faith in her abilities? So, we had to let it ride.

Advanced was not the word for that school. Intense was more like it. The third day of school, she came home hyper ventilating saying the teachers told them they would be kicked out if they couldn’t keep up with the program.

Homework was a 3 to 4 hour a day process. Weekends were full of studying. Where was the fun? What was the intensity for? I understand the school get more funding than the norm even better if they can keep the school grade rating high and GPAs high as well. She was throwing up on the way to school on the days she had a test.

Then we get to what’s called a 504 file or an IEP. They are special allowances given in the public school system for students with special needs. Well, that to me is another incident of riding down a hill on a bike with no brakes. After all the meetings, meeting such gracious and wonderful people, very helpful, they come up with a wonderful plan. But as Murphy had it, the teachers didn’t want to follow the plan.

She was supposed to be given extended time. There was a clear definition in the written plan of the scenario of if she was to take her test in the allotted time the teacher gave and she saw she was not going to have enough time to finish, then she was to inform her teacher 5 minutes before the test ended to reschedule with a mutually convenient time to finish the test. It was like you called these teachers ugly. The reaction of resistance baffled me. It was a flat out no we will not follow this plan. My daughter was more defeated than before.

So, I pulled the plug on this high school. I told my daughter she was being taken out of that school. I literally saw the blood return to her face. She was relieved. She cried and laughed at the same time. The only blessing from that school is she made friends from the first day and she is still in touch with them. They talk every day, and this is the first real friendship she has had in a long time.

But where do we go? This brings me back to my main point. I was trying to make such a perfect scenario for her to acclimate in high school that I forgot there are no perfect scenarios. Not in this world. I had forgot to put the matter in God’s hands as well and was fighting a losing battle. So, I ran to my daughter’s old school and I went to speak to her former principal.

I cried and poured my heart out. I told her all my daughter was suffering. She reminded me that she had her high school. Her small private high school where she would be with her old school peers and new ones. It was a private school that brought in international students. She would meet new people. From different backgrounds. Most of all, she would be taught in the way she learned. She would have the extended time. She was with teachers and staff she knew and loved her.

When she and I toured the school, she looked at me and said, “I’m home.” My heart burst with happiness. I was too busy fighting to make the perfect scenario for my husband and I when I needed to realize this is what she needed.

Fast forward, we are midterms now and she is studying. Her grades have improved. She joined the Media club. She took a tour of one of the local colleges and that was in her first week of her new school.

She smiles. She laughs. She is sleeping better. And so am I.

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“You Need to Quit Your Job on Monday….”

I will never forget the day my husband told me those words. You see, it wasn’t so much as the surprise of me quitting my job. It was the surprise of how soon. We had planned or better yet, I had planned to work through the summer, saved up my salary for those weeks, use it to pay off some debt my husband and I had to then be able to stay home.

It was going to work out fine. My husband started his company with an old business colleague/friend. He could get medical insurance so the need for me to work in order for us to have benefits was no longer an issue.

By this time, I had my son. It wasn’t just us 3 (hubby, daughter and I) and the dog. My son was 2 years old. My daughter was 7 years old. From my last blog, if we are going to use it as a timeline. She was about to start a new private school for kids with special needs/learning differences.

There was the pressure for me to keep working financially. There was pressure for me to stay home. The guilt of watching my daughter struggle and not having enough time in the day was painful. On top of that, having an active 2-year-old was rough. Working full time and having to rush to pick them up from the in laws to then rush home and struggle with her doing homework, my son wanting to play, getting them bathed and cooking dinner all at the same time made me wonder why I didn’t have a nervous breakdown sooner.

So, I chose home. My daughter needed me to be more available to her. My son was beginning to give me concerns as well, so I needed to be home. Home. No need to rush off in the morning to take my son to my mother-in-law to watch him. Yes, in the Cuban culture, it is very normal for the grandmothers to stay home with the grandchildren if possible. But my husband would head straight to work now instead of dropping my daughter off at school. I could now take her to school and give her daily pep talks if needed.

I enjoyed being with my son all day. No pressure from work. For the first few weeks it felt good. It was calming. However, most women whom I have spoken with all say the same thing. No matter how stressful or how hard you worked at your former job, you work harder at home.

Ok, it is not the mental pressure as before but the physical work. The struggle to constantly be picking up a mess, organizing, keeping my son entertained, his schedule, cooking dinner, doing homework with my daughter and on and on was exhausting. I was fine with staying home. Yet, I was dragging my butt.

Husbands love the fact their wives are home. They feel now you have all the free time in the world and no excuses. When you forget to do something, or you’ve had one of those days in the memory books for how many things can go wrong at once; you will still be met with a disapproving look. Especially, if you are unable to manage a task, he has given you.

It reminds me of a hilarious mommy meme where the mother says, “Just say thank you, your children are still breathing after the day I had.” In fact, some husbands just think we are sitting in front of the TV catching up on the latest episode of Real Housewives. Well, not every day.

Of course, we all know if they had to do our job for one day, they would be howling like a dog that had just been stepped on. They don’t realize and not necessarily on purpose how many things mothers juggle and have to remember on a daily basis. Just putting together a lunch for school has its own challenges. From the right color thermos, to remember to put ketchup, to cut the crust off the bread, etc.

Stay at Home Mothers are not just housewives. They are the CEOs of the home. They are the glue. They manage to serve everyone’s needs and remember everyone’s preferences. Yet, it is usually late at night before they can get to something for themselves. As I am writing this blog at midnight.

So, this blog is for all the stay-at-home moms. We see you and know your struggle. It is real. It is serious. And it is underappreciated. If you haven’t heard a thank you in a long time, or are having one of those days, I would just like to say…

I would be wrong to not mention all the working mothers, who juggle so much in the mornings, to then rush off to work, having to put in a full productive day, then rush home with the kids for dinner, baths, homework, projects, etc.

Us women are truly a remarkable creation! We do so much.

So, for all the husbands out there, make sure you give your wife a sweet kiss and say thank you. It will give her added energy and lets her know she is appreciated. Especially, on the days of where everything is going wrong.

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Is There Something Wrong with My Child?

When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, I was so happy. I had no idea what was to come. I had no idea what planning I needed to undertake other than the usual color scheme for her room and stroller I wanted. But planning out her entire future and the lists the way I had seen other women so effortlessly do? No, I didn’t do that. You see…I overwhelm easily. It is a trait of mine I am not so fond of.

But I like the women in my family, we overwhelm, we panic, we stress and then we get it done and move on. I got the job done always. That is until education and schools came into play.

Now here is my disclaimer, I am no expert, I am not a pediatrician, I am not a neurologist, and I am not a psychologist/psychiatrist. But what I am is a mother, first and foremost. I have been around other family and friends with their children as they spoke their first words, took their first steps, and reached their milestones. I knew to purchase the book “What to Expect When You Are Expecting.” I had a semblance of a plan with my husband of what to do or expect.

So, when my daughter was here and began to take her first steps, say her first words, and begin to miss milestones; I began to inwardly panic.

You see she born under fetal distress. I was in labor and didn’t feel any of my contractions. When I did, it was really the time I should have been pushing her out. Not to mention I hadn’t dilated at all. What became an exciting moment turned into 45 minutes of sheer terror for me. I had an emergency C-section. She had pooped inside my belly before she was born. Fast forward, tired but relieved, she was placed in my arms.

All was well with the world, save a few bad nights of colic fits, gastric reflux, occasional cold, bronchitis and ear infection. I went back to work after three months. My mother-in-law took care of her for me. Her first year was a happy one. Even though my husband and I was surrounded by ridiculous family drama that year, our daughter was perfect, happily growing and beautiful.

So, all those thoughts of something being wrong here kept coming up when I saw her not pronounce her words correctly, struggling to communicate and having to translate to my family and in-laws what she trying to say. At 3 years old, I was terrified to put her in PreK 3 because since she wasn’t speaking at all but a few words, I thought the right choice was to hold her back. I was told later that was a wrong decision and I just should have placed her anyways and she would have started talking immediately. Well, she still didn’t. We had her in a bubble because we were scared. What if something happened to her and she couldn’t tell me.

In the Latin culture, you have many tell you, don’t stress it. You are reading too much into it. Every child doesn’t reach milestones at the same time as others. That’s true to a point. However, there is a milestone timeline specialists and pediatricians’ use. It is necessary to be able to properly diagnose a child’s early development and alert the parent if there is an issue.

I also had family members and friends telling me if you think there is something wrong, forget what anyone else says and address it. The problem was I hesitated. I used the fact I was working full time and therefore I couldn’t take time off to address her needs. I think I was more worried about hearing what they would find.

No matter, my mistake was I should have been more proactive. If I had the chance to do it all again, I would have taken her to a neurologist. I would have gotten her speech therapy and occupational therapy at age 3 yrs. I would have ignored the ‘don’t stressors’ and made sure I had answers sooner. I would have not waited till she hit rock bottom in 3rd grade to where most children do before they are diagnosed with a learning disability/difference along with her other diagnosis. The only thing I did right was move her from the private school that wasn’t addressing her needs to one that immediately saw her areas needing attention and jumped on it.

I can say from the moment I had my answers. My husband and I went forward and didn’t look back. In moving her to right school she really blossomed. Where she hated school before and dreaded the mornings, I finally had her heading to school with a smile on her face. She started learning and retained the information. Her anxiety was considerable better. She had catching up to do in the social department where she was withdrawn at school before she was now participating and opening up to express her feelings.

She still has her memories of being teased by other children from her old schools. She still grapples with wondering what her future will be like and how successful she can be in the world we live in right now. She understands and accepts her limitations but knows it doesn’t define her. Now she is dealing with high school and all that comes with it. But that’s another blog for another day.

What’s the moral to my story? I have met and sought counsel from many teachers, principals, pediatricians’, psychologists, neurologists and all of it can be very exhausting. And no there is no one size fits all for each child. But what I can tell is this…listen to your gut. Don’t let anyone tell you there is nothing wrong.

Us mothers/fathers (don’t want to forget fathers) have a sixth sense and it something that God gave us to know when we need to step in and help our children. Trust your instincts. Sometimes they are screaming at us. It is ok to fight for your child. It is ok not to always agree with your teacher when they say everything is fine. It is ok to press a little further when your pediatrician says, I find nothing wrong. The one moment can make all the difference in the outcome.

Remember, you are their advocate, their lawyer, their coach, their counselor, their friend, and above all their parent. If you can’t or don’t fight for them…who will?

Thank you for reading! Please feel free to comment below. I will be posting this on my socia media accounts as well!

Have a great day! Be safe and make good decisions out there.

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What are the long-term effects of ADHD medication?

Medication can help people with ADHD focus, learn, and control their impulses. However, taking it for an extended period can cause physical and mental side effects.

According to a 2016 study, about 75–80%Trusted Source of children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) will benefit from taking stimulant medications. These drugs can reduceTrusted Source ADHD symptoms, leading to improvedTrusted Source academic performance, fewer difficulties at work, and better relationships.

People should also consider the potential side effects of medication. Although long-term side effects can occur, the risk is low. Many people stop experiencing side effects once they stop taking the medication.

Nonstimulant ADHD medications are also available, but doctors most commonlyTrusted Source prescribe stimulants. Therefore, this article will focus on stimulant medications for ADHD.

Read more to learn about the long-term effects of ADHD medication, when a person should change medication, and more.

Side effects of long-term ADHD medication use

ADHD medication in the form of a dispersible tablet.
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All medications come with possible side effects, and ADHD medication is no exception. However, although the short-term effects are well-researched, there is limited information on how the medication affects those who take it for an extended period.

The reason for this is that carrying out a controlled study for years and years is neither realistic nor ethical.

Therefore, experts need to rely on observational studies to understand the long-term side effects. They cannot control for variables in these studies, so the results will never be completely accurate.

However, they can still give people an idea of the long-term side effects of certain medications.

Effects on physical health

Most of the physical effects of stimulant medications are short-term and go away when a person stops taking the drug.

Some potential long-term physical health effects include:

Effects on development

ADHD medications may affect childhood development, although the research is not conclusive.

One of the most heavily studied areas is the potential for ADHD medications to stunt or slow growth. Stimulants can temporarily slow growth in children, whose growth does not later accelerate.

2021 systematic review found that the long-term use of stimulants in children correlated with a reduction in height and weight but that the overall decrease was small.

It is important to note that the medications may not directly cause growth reduction. Instead, this effect may be due to inadequate nutrition, as stimulants can decrease a person’s appetite.

Effects on mental health and behavior

Several studies have tested the effects of ADHD medications on mental health, but the results are often contradictory and inconclusive.

AnxietyTrusted Source is one of the most well-documented symptoms. Stimulants increase activity in the brain and central nervous system, which can cause a person to feel anxious or jittery.

Other people may appear less emotional, though. For these individuals, the medication can have a “blunting” effect, which can mimic depression.

Researchers are still unsure whether ADHD medication influences depression, but research suggests that it does reduce a person’s risk of suicide.

Effects on ADHD symptoms

Although stimulant medication can cause side effects, it is also an effective way to manage ADHD symptoms. As a result, it can significantly improve a person’s quality of life.

The potential benefits include:

In some cases, a person may continue to see improvements in their symptoms even after they stop taking the medication.

An older study involving more than 500 children with ADHD compared those who took medication with those who did not. Those who took medication continued to experience improved symptoms of ADHD for up to 3 years after they stopped the treatment. After that, there were no additional benefits.

Long-term effects of ADHD medication: What to know (medicalnewstoday.com)

Medically reviewed by Alexandra Perez, PharmD, MBA, BCGP — Written by Zawn Villines on November 29, 2021

Jenna’s Mommy Blog

Welcome to my new Mommy Blog!

I am so excited to start this new chapter with all of you.

As a mother or as mothers, we all have experiences. Most of them wonderful, some hard and some can pretty much take you to your breaking point.

Well this blog is here for just that. However, you may be asking what makes my blog different from all the others? Well mine is coming from my point of view of having two children with special needs and/or learning differences but also including my latin background.

I hope you will join me by commenting. I would love to hear from you in how you have faced different issues with your children. However, I want to hear from all parents from all over the world. That’s my goal in this. One parents viewpoint can be all that another parent needs to hear to help them understand a situation they could be facing right now. I can’t tell you how many times, i have been dealing with a rough situation with my children needing answers of what to do next, on my knees praying to God for help and low and behold I speak to a parent and my answer is laid right there on my lap. Sometimes the answer is so simple yet so poignant for their needs at the moment.

I hope to grow this blog and have guest bloggers speak on the issues they face as parents or ways they have found to be successful in hard times.

I also want to take this moment to give thanks to my mother, my sister and my best friend. These women are phenomenal mothers. Their hearts are pure and their love is great! To them I say thank you. I dedicate this entire blog to my son and daughter.

I will be posting my blogs on my Instagram and Facebook accounts. My blogs will be weekly. I hope you enjoy them!

Hispanic Heritage Month 2021

What Is Hispanic Heritage Month?

Composed of 56 contingents including 26 mariachis in countries like Costa Rica, Venezuela, Peru, Colombia, United States and Mexico, the parade of the XX International Mariachi and Charreria was held in Mexico on Sept. 1, 2013. Mariachi groups or ensembles Mariachis are typical of Mexico, while the music and clothing are famous worldwide.Composed of 56 contingents including 26 mariachis in countries like Costa Rica, Venezuela, Peru, Colombia, United States and Mexico, the parade of the XX International Mariachi and Charreria was held in Mexico on Sept. 1, 2013. Mariachi groups or ensembles Mariachis are typical of Mexico, while the music and clothing are famous worldwide. Hugo Ortuno—Getty ImagesBY RACHEL LEWIS SEPTEMBER 15, 2017 12:17 PM EDT

What Is Hispanic Heritage Month? | Time

Hispanic Heritage Month is an official celebration of American citizens whose ancestry can be traced back to Spain, Mexico, Central and South America and the Caribbean.

When is Hispanic Heritage Month?

The festival now lasts from September 15 to October 15 every year, but it first started out as just a week long celebration of in 1968. Twenty years later, in 1988 it expanded to dedicate a whole four weeks for the celebration of being Hispanic.

The celebration starts in the middle of the month, as opposed to the end, because the 15th marks the independence days of five Latin America countries: Costa Rica, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras and Nicaragua. Mexico, Chile, and Belize follow shortly after, on the 16th, 18th and 21st.

Who does it celebrate?

Hispanic Heritage Month “pays tribute to the generations of Hispanic Americans who have positively influenced and enriched our nation and society,” according to the official website.

It particularly celebrates Hispanic arts and culture and is therefore supported by: The Library of Congress, National Archives and Records Administration, National Endowment for the Humanities, National Gallery of Art, National Park Service, Smithsonian Institution and United States Holocaust Memorial Museum.

Dolores Huerta the activist, Roberto Clemente the baseball player, and Sonia Sotomayor the Supreme Court Justice, are just three of the Hispanic figures celebrated throughout the month.

Happy #HispanicHeritageMonth This is our month so let’s embrace our culture and remember that no matter what, we’re here to stay 🌎❣️— SEHS OLAS (@SEHSOLAS) September 15, 2017

What is happening?

People up and down the United States put on events and festivals to honor Hispanic culture. The El Barrio Latin Jazz festival takes place in the Bronx, N.Y., from September 15 to 25, and the Northwest Arkansas Hispanic Heritage Festival in Fayetteville, Ark., are just a couple of the local celebrations.

The Smithsonian Institute tweeted that they were sharing memories of Mexican-American entertainer Selena by displaying one of her costumes at the National Museum of American History, and throughout the month they are hosting Hispanic dance performances, art and natural history exhibitions.

Tomorrow marks the start of #HispanicHeritageMonth. Today our @amhistorymuseum shares memories of Selena, whose outfit is now on display. https://t.co/VTOSlQ90s0— Smithsonian (@smithsonian) September 14, 2017

How big is the U.S. Hispanic population?

Almost a fifth of the total U.S. population is Hispanic, according to the Pew Research Center. At a population of 57 million, they are the second-fastest growing racial or ethnic group behind Asians. Hispanics made up just 5% of the population back in 1970.

Of that population, around two-thirds, or 35.3 million, are people of Mexican origin. Those of Puerto Rican heritage are next at 5.3 million, and around 1 million each of Salvadorans, Cubans, Dominicans, Guatemalans and Colombians are living in the United States.